Safewords and their use at The Playhouse

In BDSM "no" rarely means no. For this reason we give all submissives a safeword within our scenes. Some submissives do not like this ideas as they feel it is a sign that they still have some control. However safewords give us the option of being a lot harsher and more extreme within the scene, and to do more edge play - if this is what has been decided before the scene beings between Domme and sub. This is because we know if we do push things too far the submissive has a way of letting us know. 

Safewords are also useful for the submissive letting us know about any 'real-life' pain or problem that is distracting them from the session so we can deal with this and make it no longer an issue.  We can then continue and mutually enjoy the scene.  For example, if you are diabetic and think you may be low on blood sugar and need to do a test it would be appropriate to use a safe-word and let us know there's a problem. 

Having said all this, we have never yet had a submissive need to use a safe-word, even when doing edge play.  There are so many ways to tell if a submissive is being pushed a bit too far just by looking at their body language or through interaction.  Thus we can modify the scene without the necessity of a safe-word. But there is always the possibility that this will change and thus we find safe-words a useful and necessary tool.